On the eve of the turn of the year, there will be a little deeper reflection about life. I started thinking about these things last night …
MIDDLE AGE IS SECOND PUBERTY
Someone once said somewhere that in middle age you realize you no longer know how to live this life. It is true. I don’t know anymore either. Maybe middle age really is like another puberty. You will start to rethink who you are and where you are going (more exactly where you are going than where you are coming from which was much thought about in that first adolescence.) However, it seems that there are again more questions than answers, just like at a young age. At some point, I kind of thought I knew pretty much every answers. I thought I knew how to live this life. Somehow I even little proudly thought I was wise and knowledgeable but then suddenly in my forties everything was unclear again. I was lost with myself and my life. There are, of course, many reasons for this, such as the onset of menopause but also all these experiences, especially the losses of recent years.
In Finnish the word puberty is translated ”murrosikä” which means transition age… and yes, I have really lived through the transition period now, so word ”murrosikä” is well suited to describe this time as well …
However, the biggest reason why you no longer know anything about life is, of course, life itself and the realization that one cannot really know the truth. One can only deduce something, and create one’s own views on different things but no one knows the true truth and the right answers. Life is ultimately a mystery.
It also makes you humble to realize that you never know the end of life either. One cannot know when or how it will happen. It’s easy to think that it happens when you’re old and sick, but it doesn’t necessarily go that way.
Things often don’t go the way you would have thought. Almost everything cannot be planned or controlled as you (in a certain way) probably imagined when you were young.
Every day and every year we move towards the unknown, and anything can happen at any time, like this surprising covid -19 pandemic that stopped the world and changed views on life again. Even this period of exception has been going on for two years now, and it is still going on, and no one knows when it will end.
The biggest news of the year that has been featured almost daily is still Covid. It has lately punished also Finland with unprecedented severity.
On the other hand, I think this new variant of omikron might even be a way out of a pandemic. However, it is clearly milder than its predecessors, which may predict a weakening of the virus. It may remain with us, but it will likely become like any common flu virus.
If all goes well, the coming year will be brighter for the covid, but in addition, light will also be visible in my own life but no more about it yet…
I have lived a lot in the memories of the past lately, after the loss of my family members but now let’s turn our gaze to the coming year and hope for the best. I really hope for a happier year, there have been quite a few sad ones… and…
I HOPE FOR YOU ALL TOO, A VERY HAPPY NEW YEAR !!!
Usually I don’t make New Year’s resolutions, but now I do this one: I promise to try to LIVE more IN THE MOMENT and APPRECIATE THE LITTLE THINGS IN LIFE!
There is a later m/age stage when it clears and you feel/know you have all the answers. Don’t fall for it, it seems so inviting. It is ’sit-back-time mode.’
Avoid at all costs; keep yourself open, keep exploring.
Thanks for the advice and good to know that everything becomes clear!
Yes but, beware the clear.
Happy New Year.
Hello. I remembered you when I made a short video in which I show our Christmas morning walk. in its background the is the music which may have heard. It has passed one year when I stopped my blogging in WordPress. The reason was due to its new text editor. I did find a new blog from France. I write in it in French and English. Three persons started to follow me there. My last post is here:
It contains many music links and of course to my Christmas morning walk video. I wish you healthy days and happy new year. I am sorry for your loss of your family members. Matti